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Friday, January 24, 2014

An end to a tragic tale.

Today I face the demon that I have been fighting since April 23, 2012 head-on. I will look my brother's murderer in the face today when he pleas to a mere 25 years for taking my brothers life of just 43 years.

I miss you, brother.

So today I need your help.

First, I need you to keep my family in your thoughts and prayers today. We will need them.

Second, I need you to help others who will face the same things that I have by donating to the Crime Victim Advocacy Center. The Crime Victim Advocacy Center is an amazing agency filled with even more amazing people. They spend their time helping people who have been victims of violent crimes, sexual assault and domestic violence, just to name a few.

The Crime Victim Advocacy Center has helped me in ways that I can never repay in the last year and a half. They have provided me with incredible counseling services, advocates to help me navigate the murky waters of the legal system and countless other priceless services--all for free. Without the help that the Crime Victim Advocacy Center has provided me, I am not sure that I would be here today.

So please, help the Crime Victim Advocacy Center help others like me. You can donate here.

Thank you!

The Sally Struthers of PTSD

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Thursday, January 16, 2014

Losing your parental shit.

 We all lose our shit as parents now and then. As documented by this most awesome video blast from the past:


Your know what that mom is? Normal. Not a terrible mother who made her sweet, innocent little boy cry and ruined his entire life, but just an everyday, normal mom.

We all lose our shit every now and then when it comes to our kids. This lady was just unfortunate enough to have it documented on video and honest enough to share it with the world. Goof for her!

Watching this and appalled by this mom’s actions? Girl, please. You have either been blessed with the patience of a saint or enough medication to be oblivious to all outside annoyances. Kudos to you either way, but give us regular ol’ mamas a friggin’ break. We need it. Along with a box of wine and a truckload of chocolate. Because we can’t all be perfect. Though we try our damnedest every day thanks to the pressure we feel from you wondermoms.

My idea of perfect is being able to do my best and not beat up on myself for falling short every now and then. Because my kids don’t need to see their mom struggling to live up to someone else’s expectations of her. They need to see her stumble every now and then. They need to see her make mistakes. They need to see her apologize for her actions when she does something wrong. They need to see her being real. Because perfection is not reality and I don’t want them to believe that it is.

 My children know that I am the best mom that I can be and that I love them more than anything in the world. They know that I would kill a tiger with my bare hands for them. They know that I would sacrifice my life in a heartbeat if it meant savings one of theirs.

So losing my shit on them every once in a while? Not the end of the world. Neither is giving them a Happy Meal when I am too exhausted to cook. Or plopping them in front of the TV for an hour because I have to get things done around the house.

Moral of the story: try be the best mom you can be. Not the best mom in the world. Everyone will be happier in the long run.

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Wednesday, January 15, 2014

If OBGYNs were brutally honest

I recently watched this video and snort-laughed the whole way through it. It is beyond a winner. Take a look and see all of the glorious funny it has to offer:

HIGHlarious, right? Well if got me to thinking of a few more things that would be funny if your OB was brutally honest about, like:

There's a chance that once the baby comes out all the puppy dog rainbows feelings you were eagerly awaiting won't happen. You might actually look at your kid and say, "Fuck, I have to pay for this thing's college?"

Pooping for the first time after delivery will be like giving birth all over again: painful, a struggle to push out and blood will most likely be involved.

If you breastfeed, there's a good chance your nipples are going to feel like they were attacked by a group of angry pirhanas. And that's the positive note. Let's not even go into milk duct infections that will make it feel like an infected watermelon is trying to escape out of something the size of a pinhole.

And if you decide not to breastfeed, when your milk comes in your hooters are going to get the size of cantaloupes and then hurt more than anything you've ever experienced in your life. They are going to make pushing that watermelon out of your lady bits feel like a joyous Christmas morning.

Just looking at the guy who knocked you up for the first few weeks after birth might induce rage strokes. The mere sight of his stupid fucking face might make you want to punch a kitten. Repeatedly.

Postpartum sex for him is going to feel a lot like throwing a golf ball down a hallway.

Postpartum sex for you is going to feel a lot like throwing a razorwire covered bowling ball into a mouse hole.

But the good news is: all of the horror stories you have heard about birth might not happen to you at all. Including the ones you have just read. Good luck!

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Thursday, January 9, 2014

A blast from The Quiet Contemplator's very gassy past..

Thought I would share one of my favorite videos of The Quiet Contemplator as a baby. She takes after her mama... Enjoy.

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Wednesday, January 8, 2014

If I had to do pregnancy all over again…

I have been pregnant. Twice. If you asked me how I liked it during the second trimester of either of my pregnancies, I would have told you that pregnancy was a miracle and that I was so lucky to be able to experience it, even if only for a short time. If you asked me how I liked it during the third trimester of either pregnancy, I would have told you that pregnancy was proof that there was no god. But I digress.

Hindsight being 20/20 and all, there are a things that I would do differently if I ever allowed my husband to get within 10 feet of my lady bits again without an arsenal of birth control, such as:

I would have told people earlier/later. 
The first time I was pregnant, waiting really was the hardest part. In retrospect, people were going to find out one way or another, so I wish I just had let the fetal cat out of the bag upon conception. The second time, I wish I would have waited until my water broke to tell people so I didn't have to deal with people saying things like, “Wow, you are so big, are you sure your due date is right?” I would have rather they just thought I had taken up professional bacon eating.

I would have made more unreasonable demands.
Because who doesn't need them some Taco Bell at 3 a.m., really? I do. NOW! And the baby really needs some ice cream at 7 a.m. I mean, its BONES are developing right now. It needs calcium. Do you really want your baby to be born with brittle bones? I didn’t think so. Now head to the store and get the baby some Neapolitan because right now it wants strawberry but it might change its mind by the time you get back so having three choices in the same carton is the safest way to ensure that I won’t cut you, I mean, that the baby will be happy.

Lay off me, I'm starving!

I would have taken more pregnancy pictures.
While I was actually pregnant, the thought of letting someone come near me with anything that resembles a lens made me want to punch a kitten. But in retrospect, I wish I had more photographic evidence that the two amazing monsters that run amok in my house were actually once inside of my belly. Because this one is super attractive and all, but it is not really the legacy I wanted to leave for my kids when they reminisce about their prenatal childhood. 

I would have holed up and not let anyone see me in public.
Not because I was the size of a houseboat, but because being in public subjected me to people who said things that made me want to kill the last of an endangered species. Repeatedly. Here are two examples that actually happened to me:
“You know, with your bigger butt and wide hips, you will be able to hide being pregnant for longer.” Um…great, because being that I am 29 and married, I was really hoping my big arse would help me hide this unwanted teen pregnancy from everyone.

While walking back from the vending machine at work, a lady said to me, "Are you and that baby eating candy again?" That person is now dead.

I would have named my baby something crazy. Like Skittles or T-bone.
 Just because I could. And man, how awesome would it be to have a baby named Skittles? Or what about Fruit Snack or Water Wing? Or Shark Bite? Because then I could give a crazy explanation as to why I chose the name because people would have to believe whatever I said because I did name my baby after it, after all.

So what about you? What would/will you do different next time?

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