tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-982236895134441993.post4703727472545171290..comments2024-03-17T02:13:23.577-05:00Comments on I like beer and babies.: How to Help Someone Who is Grievingilikebeerandbabies.comhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11641425510744950355noreply@blogger.comBlogger63125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-982236895134441993.post-54234978480430194552015-02-17T13:52:01.535-06:002015-02-17T13:52:01.535-06:00I am sorry for your loss. And thank you for this, ...I am sorry for your loss. And thank you for this, I lost a friend a few years back because I didn't know what to do or say when her dad passed away. It still makes me sad that I wasn't able to be there for her the way she needed.Nawohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15960839413353029933noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-982236895134441993.post-25728983434801301752013-11-18T14:43:30.520-06:002013-11-18T14:43:30.520-06:00thanks for being there for her!thanks for being there for her!ilikebeerandbabies.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11641425510744950355noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-982236895134441993.post-74149072332814623352013-11-18T14:42:49.023-06:002013-11-18T14:42:49.023-06:00Thanks, Katie. Hope you are doing well. Thanks, Katie. Hope you are doing well. ilikebeerandbabies.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11641425510744950355noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-982236895134441993.post-91589743824758111792013-11-18T14:37:48.269-06:002013-11-18T14:37:48.269-06:00Hi Julie, I was showing a friend your hilarious vi...Hi Julie, I was showing a friend your hilarious videos over the weekend (the minivan one and the one about dressing your kid) and I stumbled upon this post of yours. I remember hearing about the loss of your brother on Facebook somewhere shortly after it happened but I don't think I knew he was murdered and I'm pretty sure I didn't reach out with my condolences... just didn't know what to say, it had been a long time since we communicated, etc. But after reading this post it made me want to reach out and say that I am so very sorry for your loss and your family's loss. I cannot even imagine and like you said, there are no words. Your post made me think a lot about the loss of my boyfriend 8 years ago and how I dealt with it and the circumstances of how it happened and the whole grieving process..Through it I had acquaintances become close friends of mine and close friends become acquaintances because of how they responded to my tragedy. I somehow understand how people can easily drift away because they don't know what to do..hell, I didn't know what they COULD do..but others seemed to know what I needed and I'll never forget that. Anyways, I just wanted to reach out and tell you how sorry I am and if you ever need someone to vent to or to discuss loss with or anything at all, I'll be there. We've sort of lost touch over the years as friends sometimes do but I'm still here and I still love you! Xoxo Katie Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16613000127251398566noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-982236895134441993.post-63688458836763940932013-11-07T12:16:40.670-06:002013-11-07T12:16:40.670-06:00Just discovered your blog from pregnant chicken...Just discovered your blog from pregnant chicken's post on Facebook and happened across this post- thank you! I have a close friend who miscarried at 5 months with her first pregnancy & this post helps so much! When people go through horrible things, it's easy for us to become clueless about how to help. Thank you for pointing out that it's okay to ask about the situation and how she's is doing because she is most likely already thinking about it! Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03468962837430094079noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-982236895134441993.post-56012183614541876222013-10-29T14:42:27.059-05:002013-10-29T14:42:27.059-05:00So sorry about your mom!So sorry about your mom!ilikebeerandbabies.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11641425510744950355noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-982236895134441993.post-81398607630026419162013-10-29T14:34:53.458-05:002013-10-29T14:34:53.458-05:00I am so sorry that your brother is gone. I can'...I am so sorry that your brother is gone. I can't imagine how devastating his death was and still is to you.<br />Thank you for this wonderful post. I wish a few people I know would have read it after my mother died. Maybe then they would have had some friggin' clue how to console me.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01752108506604832114noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-982236895134441993.post-20503751855832186412013-09-27T10:06:14.439-05:002013-09-27T10:06:14.439-05:00hugs, Jen.hugs, Jen.ilikebeerandbabies.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11641425510744950355noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-982236895134441993.post-66340801581882942882013-09-27T09:59:54.711-05:002013-09-27T09:59:54.711-05:00Thanks for this! Having lost my mom to cancer jus...Thanks for this! Having lost my mom to cancer just a month before giving birth to her first grandchild, this really rings true to me. I've seen a lot of so-called friends disappear in the last year and a half -- but I've also seen many rise up and surprise me with their support. I wish more people understood how to help those who are grieving.Jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07841331759687522735noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-982236895134441993.post-14867116100875113342013-09-25T10:08:15.430-05:002013-09-25T10:08:15.430-05:00I am so sorry for all of your loss. Please tell yo...I am so sorry for all of your loss. Please tell your friend to reach out to me if she needs anything. Seriously. Hugs to you all.ilikebeerandbabies.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11641425510744950355noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-982236895134441993.post-10928033237534569212013-09-25T07:30:12.172-05:002013-09-25T07:30:12.172-05:00Thank you so much for this link, it acctually was ...Thank you so much for this link, it acctually was sent to us by our friend who just lost her two years old daughter. Most of us care a lot about her and are truely sad not to have that lovely little girl with us, but we don't know how to act or what to say. As you said, unless you have been there you don't know how it feels. Rubyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11119288642984292437noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-982236895134441993.post-91269978475903970372013-01-31T15:02:45.150-06:002013-01-31T15:02:45.150-06:00I am sorry to hear that, Mija. I am here if you ev...I am sorry to hear that, Mija. I am here if you ever need to talk.ilikebeerandbabies.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11641425510744950355noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-982236895134441993.post-58931983475185365652013-01-31T14:56:47.229-06:002013-01-31T14:56:47.229-06:00I cant tell you how much this rings true. I lost s...I cant tell you how much this rings true. I lost someone very close to me to suicide a few years ago and I cant tell you the number of friends I lost. There are friends I had that felt truly angry, feeling as though I abandoned them and didnt care about them, when I just simply couldnt. Its interesting to hear this come out of someone elses mouth, because when the fights came, I didnt know how to defend my not being there for them and not calling, when I didnt know how to be there for myself. Mijahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15129157449795455506noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-982236895134441993.post-22721344822245478782013-01-04T13:27:44.784-06:002013-01-04T13:27:44.784-06:00Jessica, I am so sorry for your loss of Hadley. Sh...Jessica, I am so sorry for your loss of Hadley. She not only had a beautiful name, but I am sure a beautiful soul to go with it. I have lost most of my friends since my brother's death. They just don't get what it is like. It is sad. Hopefully, like me, you have been able to find comfort in a few unexpected people. Always feel free to contact me if you ever need a stranger who understands.ilikebeerandbabies.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11641425510744950355noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-982236895134441993.post-52354662131257108482013-01-04T13:21:11.514-06:002013-01-04T13:21:11.514-06:00Oh I so, so get this and can't thank you enoug...Oh I so, so get this and can't thank you enough for sharing. I couldn't agree more with call, call and call again. I lost so many friends after the loss of our daughter. People just gave up on me, I haven't spoken to the maid of honor in my wedding since before my daughter's death. She just didn't get that I didn't have the strength to hold up my end of our friendship during that time.<br /><br />I'm so sorry you lost your brother way too soon.McKennahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09299201553545817162noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-982236895134441993.post-41796799038438968472013-01-03T09:04:36.341-06:002013-01-03T09:04:36.341-06:00Thanks, Kate. I am so sorry to hear about you moth...Thanks, Kate. I am so sorry to hear about you mother.ilikebeerandbabies.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11641425510744950355noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-982236895134441993.post-730421504800090632013-01-03T09:02:45.318-06:002013-01-03T09:02:45.318-06:00I'm just catching up since the holidays and re...I'm just catching up since the holidays and read this today. It's wonderful advice. You can never know the pain someone else has, but you know it sucks. I especially hated the "general condolences" when my mother suddenly passed away from stupid cholangiocarcinoma this year (which we'd never heard of a few weeks before). I'm so sorry about your brother. My heart goes out to everyone "celebrating" this holiday season missing someone so much. Katehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03404078875999928362noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-982236895134441993.post-57778261508426040692013-01-01T19:29:17.312-06:002013-01-01T19:29:17.312-06:00Thank you! If only I could get it out there to hel...Thank you! If only I could get it out there to help more people!ilikebeerandbabies.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11641425510744950355noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-982236895134441993.post-69635449831984819792013-01-01T18:46:51.070-06:002013-01-01T18:46:51.070-06:00Powerful, powerful post.Powerful, powerful post.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-982236895134441993.post-66846900963122981832012-12-31T16:09:41.092-06:002012-12-31T16:09:41.092-06:00Dani, thanks for so much for helping your friend. ...Dani, thanks for so much for helping your friend. You may not know how much it meant to her but I can tell you it was the world when she needed it.ilikebeerandbabies.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11641425510744950355noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-982236895134441993.post-3560478996887696732012-12-31T13:59:17.092-06:002012-12-31T13:59:17.092-06:00I am so sorry for your loss. What a horrible thing...I am so sorry for your loss. What a horrible thing to go through.<br /><br />This advice is really wonderful, and I think it's so important that you put this together as people never know what to say or do.<br /><br />Your post really helped me. I have a friend who tragically lost her son a few years ago. We weren't overly close when it happened, but I did exactly as you said - I emailed and emailed and emailed. One day, she reached out to me, and we have developed a close bond, while her other close friendships have fallen apart. Maybe it really did mean something to her that I didn't give up. I hope so. She talks about her son, but she doesn't talk about what happened very easily, and she goes through periods of distance. But posts such as yours have helped me to "get it", and I know to keep trying, and not to give up. <br /><br />Thanks so much for sharing this on the link-up today. I'm so glad I read this, even though it means you had to experience such tragedy.<br /><br />I look forward to connecting more in 2013.<br /><br />xo<br />Dani<br /><br />Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10482775080175404531noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-982236895134441993.post-35655142658949159372012-12-28T10:47:56.026-06:002012-12-28T10:47:56.026-06:00Thanks!Thanks!ilikebeerandbabies.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11641425510744950355noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-982236895134441993.post-18492472599601419602012-12-28T10:34:10.941-06:002012-12-28T10:34:10.941-06:00--I love love love the photo w/ your lovely untame...--I love love love the photo w/ your lovely untamed brother.<br /><br />I identified completely w/ this post.<br /><br />thank you for sharing. Xxxmyinnerchick.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07523772091083412278noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-982236895134441993.post-55742685482339991732012-12-21T20:17:15.824-06:002012-12-21T20:17:15.824-06:00Angie, I am so sorry about your father. My other b...Angie, I am so sorry about your father. My other brother was in a motorcycle accident a few years ago and we went through a lot if the same things. Hang in there. Contact me if you need a friend.ilikebeerandbabies.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11641425510744950355noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-982236895134441993.post-8550166304494121872012-12-21T19:42:51.325-06:002012-12-21T19:42:51.325-06:00I found your blog through the Bloggess. I love th...I found your blog through the Bloggess. I love this post. Right now I am sitting in a hospital room with my dad who was hit on his motorcycle on Nov 3rd. We are still dealing with medical issues from the accident. So many emotions go through my mind everyday. Is he going to die, is he going to live. How will my mom be? Really thank you for being brave and sharing your story with the world!<br />AngieAngela's Anxious Lifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01935144213302758223noreply@blogger.com